Up late again, so why not write. I've had some friends who don't really know me make fun of my blogs. I say, if you don't like it.......don't read it.
I'm gonna be straight to the point. This is directed to my married male friends only, and myself.. Again, if you don't like it, delete and move on.
I had some really good conversations with some friends today. What I learned is that alot of us guys have the same struggles. Let's call a spade a spade....we all think in some shape or form that our women are crazy! I know that crosses my mind from time to time. BUT, what are we doing to help our cause?
My new hobby is cooking. I freaking love it! Do you wait on your wife to cook? If you don't like what she cooks, get in there and cook for yourself. Your hands aren't broken!! I see the stats about divorce in this country, and normally it comes down to the scoreboard on the wall and men not doing their duty. It really pisses me off! We're raising young men in single families and then we bitch about not having real leaders, and how "this generation will never be like the old ones." I'm by no means a perfect husband or father, but I'll do the dishes from time to time. I hate chores, but I do them to make my Mrs. happy! We're all guilty of wishing our wives would not change and not care about the little things........dishes, laundry, whatever. But if it makes her happy, then pitch in. It is our job to control our marriage and the future of our families. If you don't believe me, crack open the Bible when you get a chance.
The family unit is a joke these days, but I for one refuse for my 2 boys to live in a house seperated from "daddy." I'm a normal guy and my wife drives me nuts sometimes. But I can't live without her. I'm gonna do the things that make her happy. A real man doesn't wear affliction t-shirts, he takes care of his family. So next time you're griping about your spouse, look yourself in the mirror and make sure you're doing all you can do. BE A REAL MAN!!
Sorry for the tangent, but I saw something on tv that got me going and I had to vent and unload. Man's Game......be a player.
Reece
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Before Life Happened....
Hello all....haven't written in a while b/c life has been busy, and I wanted to turn my mind off. All I really care about right now is football, football and.........football. I'm shaking like an alcoholic going thru detox waiting on the season to start!
This blog is a message of encouragement. I've been told that I'm one of the few people with the kuhonaes to say stuff.....and I will in this blog. I'm really hoping to help someone with my thoughts in this blog. CLARIFICATION: I' M NOT MAKING FUN OR JUDGING ANYONE WITH WHAT I AM ABOUT TO SAY!! Just think about it.
Where were you before life happened. For me, life happened at age 11. I am not going to rehash all the trials of my life, but LIFE happened for me at age 11. From that sad day forward, I grew up in a single parent home. There were many days in highschool that I woke up alone, got myself ready, and got to school on time. My mom did what she had to do, and that meant alot of time alone for me.....alot of time to find the seedier side of life. In highschool all I cared about was sports and a girlfriend. Once college hit, I was going thru the hardest time in my life and I decided to drink my problems away. How dumb was I?? The drinking only created more "problems." Now I'm 33 and the everyday trials of life still get to me. I deal with work, kids, work, kids.....kids, kids, kids......you get my point. My children are the greatest blessings I've ever had. They've taught me humility, compassion, and have taught me how to laugh at myself.
I'm in the middle of a transformation......have decided to take control of my life and stop wishing time away. That's where the encouragement comes in. A buddy from highschool recently told me that, after looking at my facebook pics, that I look more like a defensive end than a defensive back (which is what i played in highschool and college). I thought to me myself," that's funny......but he's gotta point." In the last few weeks I've taken over the reigns of my life. No longer will I be satisfied just going to work everyday. I've been dieting and going to the gym on a regular basis. That may seem like nothing, but I'm taking my life back over!!!! Life me down just like anyone else, but I've decided to do something about it! We only live once on this Earth, and I've dedicated myself to living everyday to the fullest!! My wife doesn't know this yet, but I am going on a tornado chasing vaction very soon. I'going to pursue my intersests and not let life pass me by I'm going to exploit every talent and interst I have!!
This is the encouragement part.......I'm notorious for thinking I'm the only one going thru crap. But I've learned, thanks to some good friends, that I'm not the only one! And you know what?? I'm going to live life to the fullest!! We all have our trials, but it's up to us to do something about it.
The next time life beats you down, CHOOSE to make your situation better!! Happiness is a choice!! Just remember, you're still young, and no matter what your responsibilities are.....communicate with your spouse, get out there and get a hobby......but most importantly, communicate with yourself. It will make you a better person, spouse, and better mother/father. Hope this helps.....we're all in this together.
David
This blog is a message of encouragement. I've been told that I'm one of the few people with the kuhonaes to say stuff.....and I will in this blog. I'm really hoping to help someone with my thoughts in this blog. CLARIFICATION: I' M NOT MAKING FUN OR JUDGING ANYONE WITH WHAT I AM ABOUT TO SAY!! Just think about it.
Where were you before life happened. For me, life happened at age 11. I am not going to rehash all the trials of my life, but LIFE happened for me at age 11. From that sad day forward, I grew up in a single parent home. There were many days in highschool that I woke up alone, got myself ready, and got to school on time. My mom did what she had to do, and that meant alot of time alone for me.....alot of time to find the seedier side of life. In highschool all I cared about was sports and a girlfriend. Once college hit, I was going thru the hardest time in my life and I decided to drink my problems away. How dumb was I?? The drinking only created more "problems." Now I'm 33 and the everyday trials of life still get to me. I deal with work, kids, work, kids.....kids, kids, kids......you get my point. My children are the greatest blessings I've ever had. They've taught me humility, compassion, and have taught me how to laugh at myself.
I'm in the middle of a transformation......have decided to take control of my life and stop wishing time away. That's where the encouragement comes in. A buddy from highschool recently told me that, after looking at my facebook pics, that I look more like a defensive end than a defensive back (which is what i played in highschool and college). I thought to me myself," that's funny......but he's gotta point." In the last few weeks I've taken over the reigns of my life. No longer will I be satisfied just going to work everyday. I've been dieting and going to the gym on a regular basis. That may seem like nothing, but I'm taking my life back over!!!! Life me down just like anyone else, but I've decided to do something about it! We only live once on this Earth, and I've dedicated myself to living everyday to the fullest!! My wife doesn't know this yet, but I am going on a tornado chasing vaction very soon. I'going to pursue my intersests and not let life pass me by I'm going to exploit every talent and interst I have!!
This is the encouragement part.......I'm notorious for thinking I'm the only one going thru crap. But I've learned, thanks to some good friends, that I'm not the only one! And you know what?? I'm going to live life to the fullest!! We all have our trials, but it's up to us to do something about it.
The next time life beats you down, CHOOSE to make your situation better!! Happiness is a choice!! Just remember, you're still young, and no matter what your responsibilities are.....communicate with your spouse, get out there and get a hobby......but most importantly, communicate with yourself. It will make you a better person, spouse, and better mother/father. Hope this helps.....we're all in this together.
David
Monday, August 3, 2009
They're watching
How is everyone? Haven't written in a while, but have been very busy and in a bad mood. Anyway, this one is a little sentimental, but all you parents out there should be able to identify with this.
In the past few weeks, life in the Reece household has been hectic. Long hours at work, two small children, traveling, company, etc. has started to wear us down. When I get stressed and tired, my "guard" around my children inadvertantly comes down. A curse word from time to time will fly and then I feel bad about it. One of the worst days of recent memory was when my 4 year old dropped the "D word" in front of me when he spilled chocolate milk. My heart broke immediately. Here my innocent child was repeating something he heard me say when I was having a bad day. I explained to him that daddy was wrong to say it, and that those words are not to be said. Thankfully, he hasn't said it since.
The hard part about being a parent, in my opinion, is trying to teach your kids to avoid the mistakes that we've all made as adults. My cursing in front of my child is a good example. I also believe that parts of us feel like we need to raise our kids the same way our parents raised us....some subconcious pressure if you will. I'm not preaching, just sharing some things I've noticed.
Our kids are watching EVERY MOVE WE MAKE! This really hit home with me yesterday. I've known for a long time that my 4 year old watches us. He can talk, cracks the same jokes, imitates us. His favorite thing is to help me cook by cracking eggs on the side of the pan when I'm making him breakfast. However, I assumed my 1 year old is this clueless little person who has no concept of life. How could a baby who can't talk or walk have any idea what's going on? Well, this weekend, my kid taught me more than I've taught him.
My baby and I were taking a shower together.....mainly to see how he would react to water in his face. Also, we were in a time crunch and it was convenient. While I'm holding him, my baby grabbed my wife's razor (i took the blade off), and proceded to play with it. Within 15 seconds, he was holding the razor to my face and pretending to shave me. Now I would like to think he's a genius, but in all reality, he's a child learning from watching. He also takes the hairbrush and puts it up to his head everytime he gets it. I was shocked the first time I saw him do it!! However, I always joke that if a dog can learn, surely a baby can. I guess I never really believed what I was saying. I do now.
Today I had the privilage to spend the day with a well known radio personality. I was there for the experience, but also to see if it's something I could do.....something I've always wanted to do. As I drove home for 2 hours, my mind was spinning about how I could do it, and what I would do if I had my own show. When I got home, I was brought back down to Earth immediately. I went to the bedroom to talk to my 4 year old and he said,"daddy, were you in the car?" I said,"yes, why?" He said,"your ears are cold." He knows that I love the AC on high in my car, and that my big ears are always cold after I get out of the car. Why would he know that?? Because our kids notice EVERYTHING!!
We all have our own opinions on morals, ethics, religion, etc.. And, it's very easy to let some things slide.....things that we, including myself, wouldn't want our kids to do or see. We often think, they don't really know what's going on. Well, I'm convinced they do. My 1 year old knows where a razor and hairbrush go, and my 4 year old can tell when I've been in the car because my ears are cold.
I'm not preaching to anyone.....I'm really talking to myself as I write this. Just consider the example you're setting for your children. I can think of many areas I need to improve on. Just remember.......they're watching.
David
In the past few weeks, life in the Reece household has been hectic. Long hours at work, two small children, traveling, company, etc. has started to wear us down. When I get stressed and tired, my "guard" around my children inadvertantly comes down. A curse word from time to time will fly and then I feel bad about it. One of the worst days of recent memory was when my 4 year old dropped the "D word" in front of me when he spilled chocolate milk. My heart broke immediately. Here my innocent child was repeating something he heard me say when I was having a bad day. I explained to him that daddy was wrong to say it, and that those words are not to be said. Thankfully, he hasn't said it since.
The hard part about being a parent, in my opinion, is trying to teach your kids to avoid the mistakes that we've all made as adults. My cursing in front of my child is a good example. I also believe that parts of us feel like we need to raise our kids the same way our parents raised us....some subconcious pressure if you will. I'm not preaching, just sharing some things I've noticed.
Our kids are watching EVERY MOVE WE MAKE! This really hit home with me yesterday. I've known for a long time that my 4 year old watches us. He can talk, cracks the same jokes, imitates us. His favorite thing is to help me cook by cracking eggs on the side of the pan when I'm making him breakfast. However, I assumed my 1 year old is this clueless little person who has no concept of life. How could a baby who can't talk or walk have any idea what's going on? Well, this weekend, my kid taught me more than I've taught him.
My baby and I were taking a shower together.....mainly to see how he would react to water in his face. Also, we were in a time crunch and it was convenient. While I'm holding him, my baby grabbed my wife's razor (i took the blade off), and proceded to play with it. Within 15 seconds, he was holding the razor to my face and pretending to shave me. Now I would like to think he's a genius, but in all reality, he's a child learning from watching. He also takes the hairbrush and puts it up to his head everytime he gets it. I was shocked the first time I saw him do it!! However, I always joke that if a dog can learn, surely a baby can. I guess I never really believed what I was saying. I do now.
Today I had the privilage to spend the day with a well known radio personality. I was there for the experience, but also to see if it's something I could do.....something I've always wanted to do. As I drove home for 2 hours, my mind was spinning about how I could do it, and what I would do if I had my own show. When I got home, I was brought back down to Earth immediately. I went to the bedroom to talk to my 4 year old and he said,"daddy, were you in the car?" I said,"yes, why?" He said,"your ears are cold." He knows that I love the AC on high in my car, and that my big ears are always cold after I get out of the car. Why would he know that?? Because our kids notice EVERYTHING!!
We all have our own opinions on morals, ethics, religion, etc.. And, it's very easy to let some things slide.....things that we, including myself, wouldn't want our kids to do or see. We often think, they don't really know what's going on. Well, I'm convinced they do. My 1 year old knows where a razor and hairbrush go, and my 4 year old can tell when I've been in the car because my ears are cold.
I'm not preaching to anyone.....I'm really talking to myself as I write this. Just consider the example you're setting for your children. I can think of many areas I need to improve on. Just remember.......they're watching.
David
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